Comments on: When you make that face, then, YES it is a joke. http://www.thefuturemrsdarcy.com/2010/02/when-you-make-that-face-then-yes-it-is-a-joke/ Your Life on Paper. Wedding Invitations, Party Invitations, And More! Tue, 20 Dec 2011 15:56:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Brandy http://www.thefuturemrsdarcy.com/2010/02/when-you-make-that-face-then-yes-it-is-a-joke/comment-page-1/#comment-843 Brandy Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:48:45 +0000 http://www.thefuturemrsdarcy.com/?p=823#comment-843 Seriously, Kristen? I feel like you validated Karaoke Extravaganza: 2KX (The 5th Anniversary) as the gold standard event by which all other DC social calendars are judged. Thanks. On to Hermione: my suggestion is to address the friends openly, frankly and early enough to manage expectations. A wedding guest list is like a piece of prime rib. Some friends are just fatty pieces asking to be cut off. "Hey, Padma! I just wanted to let you know that we are having guest list issues. [At this point tell a white lie] Our parents are insisting on inviting so and so and we had to compromise since they gave birth to us...blah blah blah...anyway, I feel really bad because we're friends and I would love to share this day with you. I don't mean to slight you. This is no reflection on my affection for you as a friend." My other suggestion is to the Padma's of the world: if you're the fat on the prime rib that gets trimmed, get over it. Weddings are a complicated dynamic. Anyone who has ever tried planning by committee knows that it usually results in no one getting what they want. Take some empathy on the bride. Much of her planning was done to accommodate everyone else, parents, siblings, friends from elementary school, friends from college, friends from grad school, co-workers from 3 jobs, yoga instructors, dog-walkers....then add the grooms side. Seriously, Kristen? I feel like you validated Karaoke Extravaganza: 2KX (The 5th Anniversary) as the gold standard event by which all other DC social calendars are judged.

Thanks.

On to Hermione: my suggestion is to address the friends openly, frankly and early enough to manage expectations. A wedding guest list is like a piece of prime rib. Some friends are just fatty pieces asking to be cut off. “Hey, Padma! I just wanted to let you know that we are having guest list issues. [At this point tell a white lie] Our parents are insisting on inviting so and so and we had to compromise since they gave birth to us…blah blah blah…anyway, I feel really bad because we’re friends and I would love to share this day with you. I don’t mean to slight you. This is no reflection on my affection for you as a friend.”

My other suggestion is to the Padma’s of the world: if you’re the fat on the prime rib that gets trimmed, get over it. Weddings are a complicated dynamic. Anyone who has ever tried planning by committee knows that it usually results in no one getting what they want. Take some empathy on the bride. Much of her planning was done to accommodate everyone else, parents, siblings, friends from elementary school, friends from college, friends from grad school, co-workers from 3 jobs, yoga instructors, dog-walkers….then add the grooms side.

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